GOD-Identity.
Who are YOU in Christ?
Sorry it's been a while since I last posted...many great things have been happening and opening up, so I am now back to share a little of what is going on.
I've started a new trail in this journey and it's enhancing what I've begun in Proverbs and filled in a few gaps as I walk in the Beatitudes from Matthew 5 and read on till chapter 7. Here's a bit of what I've been discovering...
Today's reading took me into Chapters 5and 6 where (in The Massage)God tells me to "Grow up and live in the God-created identity He gave me! He wants me to live in God-reality, with God-initiative and under His God-provision. WOW!!! I KNOW that the woman of Proverbs knew this! She HAD to in order to really be all that's described of her. And these verses were written far after her time on earth. Her time (because Proverbs is in the Old Testament) was before Christ was a reality in the world and only a hope of the Jewish people. I am also reminded that this passage in Proverbs isn't just about women alone, but the whole of his believers. That these traits are for all of us as His bride. So what is YOUR God-identity? Sit and meditate a bit on listening to God and hearing from Him about who He wants you to be and what His reality is for you, what provisions He has waiting for you to accept. What are the tasks He has for you and are you ready to dive into and initiate your God -reality? In all of this...it's about giving to Him for who HE is, not just taking care of your earthly family, but praising God as you do the tasks He has given to you. It's also about lifting up the Kingdom of God for non-believers to see and turn to when they are in need and searching for their God-identity. Here are the verses that I've based this input upon...
(from The Message)
"In a word, what I'm saying is Grow Up. You're kingdom subjects, Now, live like it. Live out your God-created identity. Live generously and graciously toward others, the way God lives toward you."
Matthew Ch. 5 verse 48
"What I'm trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God's giving. People who don't know Gd and the way he works fuss over these things, but you know both God and how he works. Steep your life in God-reality, God-initiative, God-provcisions. Don't worry about missing out. You'll find all your everyday, human concerns will be met."
chapter 6 verse 30-33
Friday, June 22, 2012
Friday, June 15, 2012
Do you enjoy who you are?
As I read through this passage again, I get the sense that this woman is really happy with who and what she is. I get the picture that she enjoys every aspect of her whole day...even if something is a bit of an obstacle for a short time, she is happy to use her negotiating skills to work it out and go forward. Have you ever had one day like this? I have had a rare few....and not recently. I look forward to my girls being home over the summer because I have some "plans" for us to have a terrific summer and loads of growing closer and being stronger as a family. I want to have many of these days that I think the Proverbs woman had regularly!
Do you have a skill or task that really just is so difficult or frustrating to you? I do...my youngest is still struggling with toileting and we seem to battle with each other several times a day. So much so that we've seen medical professionals for suggestions on how to conquer this. Overall, it's a mind over matter issue and when we butt heads...well..you get the picture. I can't WAIT to get this solved!!! Then I can begin to really enjoy the many things we like to do with out worry about any more accidents!!
Today I want to challenge you to ENJOY YOU and who you are!!! If there is something that you are challenged with and have hit the limit of your frustration .....seek out help from others who have conquered it. Whether it's a parenting issue, a household issue, learning a new skill...whatever...just find a different source, seek out a professional's opinion or just set it aside so you can get a new or fresh perspective. Always put your efforts toward praising Him and the rest will follow....Easier said than done, believe me I know that, but when I do this....everything else follows so much more smoothly. Let me know the results of your day...tell me what made your day so special and please..ENJOY YOU TODAY!!
As I read through this passage again, I get the sense that this woman is really happy with who and what she is. I get the picture that she enjoys every aspect of her whole day...even if something is a bit of an obstacle for a short time, she is happy to use her negotiating skills to work it out and go forward. Have you ever had one day like this? I have had a rare few....and not recently. I look forward to my girls being home over the summer because I have some "plans" for us to have a terrific summer and loads of growing closer and being stronger as a family. I want to have many of these days that I think the Proverbs woman had regularly!
Do you have a skill or task that really just is so difficult or frustrating to you? I do...my youngest is still struggling with toileting and we seem to battle with each other several times a day. So much so that we've seen medical professionals for suggestions on how to conquer this. Overall, it's a mind over matter issue and when we butt heads...well..you get the picture. I can't WAIT to get this solved!!! Then I can begin to really enjoy the many things we like to do with out worry about any more accidents!!
Today I want to challenge you to ENJOY YOU and who you are!!! If there is something that you are challenged with and have hit the limit of your frustration .....seek out help from others who have conquered it. Whether it's a parenting issue, a household issue, learning a new skill...whatever...just find a different source, seek out a professional's opinion or just set it aside so you can get a new or fresh perspective. Always put your efforts toward praising Him and the rest will follow....Easier said than done, believe me I know that, but when I do this....everything else follows so much more smoothly. Let me know the results of your day...tell me what made your day so special and please..ENJOY YOU TODAY!!
Thursday, June 14, 2012
What kind of Diamond are You?
Lost and Found....what have you found while reading this description of the Bride of Christ?
"A good woman is hard to find"
How do we know if we are a "good" woman....Difficult to determine from within and not have a big ego about yourself, but I think with a few points for direction you can decide where you fall on the overall scale of good or not good. Obviously, your friends and family with help with this determination, but how do you?
Do you have a strong relationship with our Lord? Have you consistently put time into this relationship and built it BEFORE and DURING your marriage WITH your husband and family. Going over the many points of Proverbs 31, have you worked these into your life? It's not hard to see why we think we have to be "super women" but do you also see that when you build your relationship with the Lord and continue to grow in your faith that these attributes are natural outcomes? You will BECOME the DIAMOND of UNTOLD WORTH! As I started this journey, I looked up what it takes to make a diamond....and three factors are key in the building of diamonds. Pressure, time and heat. And an enormous amount of each of these is necessary for a diamond to burst forth from the depths of the earth and rise to the surface as the untouched beauty we now use as a symbol of unending love and value. Diamonds come in all kinds of colors and shapes...we humans have placed dollar values on the different colors, sizes and cuts in order to grasp in our human minds just what something of unimaginable beauty could worth. It takes a lot of work and dedication to be a "good woman" and I know that we all want that for ourselves and our families. This work is worth "far more than diamonds" to our Lord when we dedicate our efforts to it and to Him. Remember....in His eyes you are already diamonds!! You are already PRICELESS...BEYOND THE WORTH OF DIAMONDS!
Lost and Found....what have you found while reading this description of the Bride of Christ?
"A good woman is hard to find"
How do we know if we are a "good" woman....Difficult to determine from within and not have a big ego about yourself, but I think with a few points for direction you can decide where you fall on the overall scale of good or not good. Obviously, your friends and family with help with this determination, but how do you?
Do you have a strong relationship with our Lord? Have you consistently put time into this relationship and built it BEFORE and DURING your marriage WITH your husband and family. Going over the many points of Proverbs 31, have you worked these into your life? It's not hard to see why we think we have to be "super women" but do you also see that when you build your relationship with the Lord and continue to grow in your faith that these attributes are natural outcomes? You will BECOME the DIAMOND of UNTOLD WORTH! As I started this journey, I looked up what it takes to make a diamond....and three factors are key in the building of diamonds. Pressure, time and heat. And an enormous amount of each of these is necessary for a diamond to burst forth from the depths of the earth and rise to the surface as the untouched beauty we now use as a symbol of unending love and value. Diamonds come in all kinds of colors and shapes...we humans have placed dollar values on the different colors, sizes and cuts in order to grasp in our human minds just what something of unimaginable beauty could worth. It takes a lot of work and dedication to be a "good woman" and I know that we all want that for ourselves and our families. This work is worth "far more than diamonds" to our Lord when we dedicate our efforts to it and to Him. Remember....in His eyes you are already diamonds!! You are already PRICELESS...BEYOND THE WORTH OF DIAMONDS!
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
Challenging words...let me know what you find out about your neighbor!
There is always someone worse off than you
" She's quick to assist anyone in need, reaches out to help the poor."
How many times have you had phone calls asking for money for any number of causes and you just hung up?..I admit...I do it all too often and I know that the person on the other line is just "doing their job". I try harder now to be nice when I say..."I'm sorry ,we just can't swing an extra dollar your way this time." But money isn't the only way we can help out the needy. Thank God, cause otherwise no one would be getting much assistance from me! When faced with helping others, sometimes you have to do some harsh reality discussions before progress is made. Other times, it's simple a cup of coffee and a tearful unloading to listen to in order to help someone onto the best path. Most times, it's a way out of my feeling sorry for myself!! I can always make an afghan as a present for someone, or cook a meal, watch their kids or help in researching something on the net. Maybe assist in making out a resume for job hunting. And being "money poor" isn't the only definition of poor. There are those who are poor in spirit and poor in health that can need your assistance..and sometimes we are rewarded by this in soooo many other ways than money!! These are the events that also help to shape your children's sense of gratitude, charity and "love thy neighbor". Children learn much more from our examples than they do from anything we say.....not to say we should be mute when teaching our kids right from wrong...but they are far more perceptive to our actions and that they match what we speak than we give them credit for. Your challenge today is to find some way to help another through a difficulty or provide the answer to a need...and see just how far your spirits get lifted!!
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
It's a great day for a Parade!!
What exactly do I DESERVE?
"Give her everything she deserves!! Festoon her life with praises!"
Well, for starters...probably a good kick in the butt for each time I "break out" of the Proverbs 31 mold. I'm not always pleasant and kind....I don't always keep my cool when my kids misbehave...especially in the mornings when I"m not fully awake before having my 1st cup of coffee. So I deserve.....not grace or mercy, but that's what I'm given by our loving Father each and every day!!! Again...I think in this verse God is talking in his "church as his bride" attitude. I believe that we as his church, his bride, are given all we deserve and much we don't because God really does LOVE US and wants to truly lavish us with our hearts desires! And as believers our hearts desire is to please our Father in Heaven! To follow the plans He has for us and to spread His Word among the nations so that ALL may be included in the family of Christ!!
When I think of "Festooning" someone I am reminded of parades for dignitaries. Where the confetti just blurs the picture of the one being honored and adored. God wants us to honor and festoon Him with our praises and to treat each other with the grace and mercy He bestows on us each day! WOW! I don't think I would want to follow that parade and clean up the mountains of confetti and streamers that would create!! But in Heaven, there won't be a mess..I'm convinced I won't need my expert cleaning skills there...THANK YOU! Make a parade for each of your family members today....Festoon them with praises and give them all they deserve! Life is going to be such a fun party when we all start in on that stage of Worship and Praise to our Father in Heaven!!
What exactly do I DESERVE?
"Give her everything she deserves!! Festoon her life with praises!"
Well, for starters...probably a good kick in the butt for each time I "break out" of the Proverbs 31 mold. I'm not always pleasant and kind....I don't always keep my cool when my kids misbehave...especially in the mornings when I"m not fully awake before having my 1st cup of coffee. So I deserve.....not grace or mercy, but that's what I'm given by our loving Father each and every day!!! Again...I think in this verse God is talking in his "church as his bride" attitude. I believe that we as his church, his bride, are given all we deserve and much we don't because God really does LOVE US and wants to truly lavish us with our hearts desires! And as believers our hearts desire is to please our Father in Heaven! To follow the plans He has for us and to spread His Word among the nations so that ALL may be included in the family of Christ!!
When I think of "Festooning" someone I am reminded of parades for dignitaries. Where the confetti just blurs the picture of the one being honored and adored. God wants us to honor and festoon Him with our praises and to treat each other with the grace and mercy He bestows on us each day! WOW! I don't think I would want to follow that parade and clean up the mountains of confetti and streamers that would create!! But in Heaven, there won't be a mess..I'm convinced I won't need my expert cleaning skills there...THANK YOU! Make a parade for each of your family members today....Festoon them with praises and give them all they deserve! Life is going to be such a fun party when we all start in on that stage of Worship and Praise to our Father in Heaven!!
Monday, June 11, 2012
SMILE...You're on God Camera...
And HE LOVES to watch over you!!!!
"Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile."
Most days, I don't think ANYONE would describe me as elegant....even on a Sunday morning. I am a person who really doesn't go in for all the latest fashions and you will NEVER see me in high heels. So how will I obtain "elegance"? Most days I am in a t-shirt and jeans or shorts. I on and off will have some makeup on...depending on what I'm up to that day or the degree of heat and humidity and the number of hotflashes I've suffered through while getting ready to face the public. I don't "perspire" I SWEAT" so watching my makeup slide down my face wouldn't be a pretty sight. I am thankful for clear skin and good clean sing products from Mary Kay. Also that I tan well, so as to hide some of those not so nice flaws. I can't grow my hair to fit the latest couiffer, so I keep it short and very simple. If it weren't for my curves (more generous than I'd like) you'd think I was of the male persuasion!
I do, however choose to open the door for others if I see that we may crash and I choose to teach my children manners (even though it doesn't always show). I try to remember to thank people for their gifts and generosity or help when being given. I speak my mind...fairly bluntly most days, but I try to be tactful. I truly love to listen to folks as they recount a past event in their family or local history. (I LOVE to do family tree research). I even try to make sure I do my best in what ever project or task I'm working on because, of course, it's all being done, said or praised up to God! I gave my all in all I do...or I at least try...and think that this is the elegance God would prefer to have. Something done in all sincerity and love for Him than a swank new dress and heels with the latest updo and fashion accessories. Now, I think I might need to figure out that "high tea" ritual!!
Facing each new day with a smile....EASY...HIS mercies and grace are NEW EVERY MORNING!!!! I'M ALWAYS forgiven and given mercy for the many little slip ups and mistakes I've made along the course of each day. And my husband...he does so much worrying that I don't have to think about it most days. I've had a peace about many situations because I know God has us covered. May not be exactly what I was thinking of as a solution, but He's never let me or my family down, so..why start worrying now?!! I don't deserve many of the things, relationships or grace and mercy I have received...none of us do, but we have it...everyday...new EACH AND EVERY morning...so there is NO EXCUSE not to smile at each new day!!
And HE LOVES to watch over you!!!!
"Her clothes are well-made and elegant, and she always faces tomorrow with a smile."
Most days, I don't think ANYONE would describe me as elegant....even on a Sunday morning. I am a person who really doesn't go in for all the latest fashions and you will NEVER see me in high heels. So how will I obtain "elegance"? Most days I am in a t-shirt and jeans or shorts. I on and off will have some makeup on...depending on what I'm up to that day or the degree of heat and humidity and the number of hotflashes I've suffered through while getting ready to face the public. I don't "perspire" I SWEAT" so watching my makeup slide down my face wouldn't be a pretty sight. I am thankful for clear skin and good clean sing products from Mary Kay. Also that I tan well, so as to hide some of those not so nice flaws. I can't grow my hair to fit the latest couiffer, so I keep it short and very simple. If it weren't for my curves (more generous than I'd like) you'd think I was of the male persuasion!
I do, however choose to open the door for others if I see that we may crash and I choose to teach my children manners (even though it doesn't always show). I try to remember to thank people for their gifts and generosity or help when being given. I speak my mind...fairly bluntly most days, but I try to be tactful. I truly love to listen to folks as they recount a past event in their family or local history. (I LOVE to do family tree research). I even try to make sure I do my best in what ever project or task I'm working on because, of course, it's all being done, said or praised up to God! I gave my all in all I do...or I at least try...and think that this is the elegance God would prefer to have. Something done in all sincerity and love for Him than a swank new dress and heels with the latest updo and fashion accessories. Now, I think I might need to figure out that "high tea" ritual!!
Facing each new day with a smile....EASY...HIS mercies and grace are NEW EVERY MORNING!!!! I'M ALWAYS forgiven and given mercy for the many little slip ups and mistakes I've made along the course of each day. And my husband...he does so much worrying that I don't have to think about it most days. I've had a peace about many situations because I know God has us covered. May not be exactly what I was thinking of as a solution, but He's never let me or my family down, so..why start worrying now?!! I don't deserve many of the things, relationships or grace and mercy I have received...none of us do, but we have it...everyday...new EACH AND EVERY morning...so there is NO EXCUSE not to smile at each new day!!
Friday, June 8, 2012
Good Morning Sunshine ( An earth shattering challenge awaits you!)
"Her children rise up and called her blessed her husband also and he praises her"
I don't know about you, but my kids don't "rise up" easily each morning. One moans and groans her way all through the process of breakfast and getting ready and the other one is a screamer about being "cold" and "I don't wanna go" and struggles to get even a few bites of breakfast in before the next step of dressing for school. It's not like they have much to choose from in way of clothing...they wear uniforms. And then there is the nightmare of too many people using too few bathrooms. Fortunately, by 7:30 or so they are out the door and the house is again the quiet sanctuary it never has been before!!! Even my oldest was never the morning person school required her to be. She just was "uncommunicative" until about 10 am or so. Now, if allowed to wake on their own, they are lovely children and then I just have to unglue them from the television or a computer game.
As for my husband...He's SO NOT a morning person!! At least he's quiet about his disgust for the am routine and realizes that it's a must in order to accomplish his task list for the day, but I let him get himself ready and not ask of him to do much with the girls as this slows him down thereby making everyone a bit later than warranted.
The praising me part? Both my girls LOVE hugs and LOVE TO GIVE those hugs to all and any who will accept them.. they are a testament to me because, although they are crabby and grouchy in the morning, their teachers really enjoy them in their classrooms, many family and friends report back to me that they are the sweetest little things...(I only wish this behavior was more prominent in our household) and can't see how they could be soooooo much the opposite! Spending a day in my shoes to view my kids would SO open their eyes!!! They also brag to their friends about me and I've had many a compliment via a conversation with other moms about what my girls said about me to others. That's my biggest blessing! I have never heard from anyone negative reflections about me from my husband and he is always telling me how grateful he is that he married me and that I'm doing such a wonderful job with the kids. How he would be TOTALLY lost without me if he had to deal with the kids on his own....(he would, too) and that I cannot die first as he wouldn't know any of the phone numbers he would need cause I have them all memorized in my head. (I have a funny memory that way)
Today...try to say at least 4 nice things about and to your husband and children....let me know the outcome cause I think the change could be earth shattering!!!
"Her children rise up and called her blessed her husband also and he praises her"
I don't know about you, but my kids don't "rise up" easily each morning. One moans and groans her way all through the process of breakfast and getting ready and the other one is a screamer about being "cold" and "I don't wanna go" and struggles to get even a few bites of breakfast in before the next step of dressing for school. It's not like they have much to choose from in way of clothing...they wear uniforms. And then there is the nightmare of too many people using too few bathrooms. Fortunately, by 7:30 or so they are out the door and the house is again the quiet sanctuary it never has been before!!! Even my oldest was never the morning person school required her to be. She just was "uncommunicative" until about 10 am or so. Now, if allowed to wake on their own, they are lovely children and then I just have to unglue them from the television or a computer game.
As for my husband...He's SO NOT a morning person!! At least he's quiet about his disgust for the am routine and realizes that it's a must in order to accomplish his task list for the day, but I let him get himself ready and not ask of him to do much with the girls as this slows him down thereby making everyone a bit later than warranted.
The praising me part? Both my girls LOVE hugs and LOVE TO GIVE those hugs to all and any who will accept them.. they are a testament to me because, although they are crabby and grouchy in the morning, their teachers really enjoy them in their classrooms, many family and friends report back to me that they are the sweetest little things...(I only wish this behavior was more prominent in our household) and can't see how they could be soooooo much the opposite! Spending a day in my shoes to view my kids would SO open their eyes!!! They also brag to their friends about me and I've had many a compliment via a conversation with other moms about what my girls said about me to others. That's my biggest blessing! I have never heard from anyone negative reflections about me from my husband and he is always telling me how grateful he is that he married me and that I'm doing such a wonderful job with the kids. How he would be TOTALLY lost without me if he had to deal with the kids on his own....(he would, too) and that I cannot die first as he wouldn't know any of the phone numbers he would need cause I have them all memorized in my head. (I have a funny memory that way)
Today...try to say at least 4 nice things about and to your husband and children....let me know the outcome cause I think the change could be earth shattering!!!
Wednesday, June 6, 2012
Leading Citizens....(even if it's just your own family in building of their faith)
"Her husband is well known, one of the leading citizens"
My husband isn't a "leading citizen" as in political circles, he has however placed himself in positions of some influence in our community. He is on the parish council and strives to put forth strong Christian values into his decisions and discussions with others in the professional circles in which he participates. A leader doesn't have to be out in the public eye and I feel is better when not as noticed for his/her face, but for the effectiveness of their influence. When you think of it...Jesus wasn't as visually recognized by the public as his teachings....people from far away "heard of him" and followed...more than those who "recognized" his face!! Now, just to be clear, I didn't marry my husband because he was well known or a big leader in our community, but I recognized that his profession and his desire to make a difference in the lives of our community meant more, even if not well known.
As such, I have always tried to promote his ideas of being a part of a group/council/board of professionals that is working toward a goal of community improvement in any way. Being on such boards has made him a better known person in our area and therefore, a more positive influence on others. We've built stronger relations with local businesses because of the work he has been able to do with each of them...and increased our circle of influence in this manner. As example....a local repair shop has been a great place for our vehicle repairs...over several years and vehicles, including my daughters. Because of this relationship, the shop owner contacted my husband for his services and established a stronger bond of professional courtesy and we have reaped some benefits over time for the services rendered from both parties! We have also referred others to this business for repairs on their vehicles and thus increased business for the shop owner and my family/husbands reputation in the business world as well! Kindness and good ethics make for a great way to grow in business, leadership and strength in the community and in your faith. Not sure where in the bible it is stated, but "faith without works is dead" and we always try to ensure we work with faith-filled people and local businesses in order to spread His Word to all we encounter!!
"Her husband is well known, one of the leading citizens"
My husband isn't a "leading citizen" as in political circles, he has however placed himself in positions of some influence in our community. He is on the parish council and strives to put forth strong Christian values into his decisions and discussions with others in the professional circles in which he participates. A leader doesn't have to be out in the public eye and I feel is better when not as noticed for his/her face, but for the effectiveness of their influence. When you think of it...Jesus wasn't as visually recognized by the public as his teachings....people from far away "heard of him" and followed...more than those who "recognized" his face!! Now, just to be clear, I didn't marry my husband because he was well known or a big leader in our community, but I recognized that his profession and his desire to make a difference in the lives of our community meant more, even if not well known.
As such, I have always tried to promote his ideas of being a part of a group/council/board of professionals that is working toward a goal of community improvement in any way. Being on such boards has made him a better known person in our area and therefore, a more positive influence on others. We've built stronger relations with local businesses because of the work he has been able to do with each of them...and increased our circle of influence in this manner. As example....a local repair shop has been a great place for our vehicle repairs...over several years and vehicles, including my daughters. Because of this relationship, the shop owner contacted my husband for his services and established a stronger bond of professional courtesy and we have reaped some benefits over time for the services rendered from both parties! We have also referred others to this business for repairs on their vehicles and thus increased business for the shop owner and my family/husbands reputation in the business world as well! Kindness and good ethics make for a great way to grow in business, leadership and strength in the community and in your faith. Not sure where in the bible it is stated, but "faith without works is dead" and we always try to ensure we work with faith-filled people and local businesses in order to spread His Word to all we encounter!!
Tuesday, June 5, 2012
TRUST NEVER GETS RUSTY WHEN COATED WITH GOD'S ANNOINTING OILS!
Is your heart safe with your husband? Is your husbands heart safe with you?
"The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil"
He completely trusts her to do all the right things! No suspicion of selfish acts that would not include his heart in the consideration. He could bring co-workers home for dinner unannounced and never worry about the dinner not being enough, that the house wouldn't be cleaned up and tidy, that the kids would not be well behaved! AMAZING TRUST!!! I know that if I sprung such a surprise on my husband, who by the way HATES change, I would be shot full of those evil eye looks that we give them! I'd have so many holes through me I would look like Swiss Cheese!
Recently a friend confided to me about the flirtations of another man toward her. She did not return these affections and told her husband that this man continued to make each encounter with him very akward. She really could not avoid some of these encounters as they were part of an ongoing activity she attended with her daughter. Both my friend and her husband are deeply in love with each other and neither is concerned that she would stray from her marriage.....as akward as this situation is, the husband doesn't feel the need to confront the flirt, only trusts that his wife is sure in her love and trusts that she wouldn't betray his heart! WOW...I'm overwhelmingly impressed with his trust. So many others would eventually begun to flirt in return and then start that horrid downward trend into infidelity! It is just this kind of diversion that takes our eyes from Christ that He is describing in Proverbs. He has trust that once we are in a solid relationship with Him, we will not look elsewhere for our hearts desire....it will ALWAYS be with Him!!
I know that God trusts me as I Him.....I diligently am working toward His vision for me and I will follow His direction with it until it is completed.....I hope that other things will not try to sway my heart from this...and trust that He will give me the blinders to stay on course with it.
It is only by trust that such a strong marriage can take place. With a clear vision and direction from the creator, we are able to "finish" the job of raising our children up, trusting in Him to guide our steps, words and actions.
Is your heart safe with your husband? Is your husbands heart safe with you?
"The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil"
He completely trusts her to do all the right things! No suspicion of selfish acts that would not include his heart in the consideration. He could bring co-workers home for dinner unannounced and never worry about the dinner not being enough, that the house wouldn't be cleaned up and tidy, that the kids would not be well behaved! AMAZING TRUST!!! I know that if I sprung such a surprise on my husband, who by the way HATES change, I would be shot full of those evil eye looks that we give them! I'd have so many holes through me I would look like Swiss Cheese!
Recently a friend confided to me about the flirtations of another man toward her. She did not return these affections and told her husband that this man continued to make each encounter with him very akward. She really could not avoid some of these encounters as they were part of an ongoing activity she attended with her daughter. Both my friend and her husband are deeply in love with each other and neither is concerned that she would stray from her marriage.....as akward as this situation is, the husband doesn't feel the need to confront the flirt, only trusts that his wife is sure in her love and trusts that she wouldn't betray his heart! WOW...I'm overwhelmingly impressed with his trust. So many others would eventually begun to flirt in return and then start that horrid downward trend into infidelity! It is just this kind of diversion that takes our eyes from Christ that He is describing in Proverbs. He has trust that once we are in a solid relationship with Him, we will not look elsewhere for our hearts desire....it will ALWAYS be with Him!!
I know that God trusts me as I Him.....I diligently am working toward His vision for me and I will follow His direction with it until it is completed.....I hope that other things will not try to sway my heart from this...and trust that He will give me the blinders to stay on course with it.
It is only by trust that such a strong marriage can take place. With a clear vision and direction from the creator, we are able to "finish" the job of raising our children up, trusting in Him to guide our steps, words and actions.
Monday, June 4, 2012
You HAVE SPARE TIME....this will challenge you to find it!!
"She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness." KJV Prov 31 v 27
We are all busy!! But with what? I know that my schedule is loaded with "things I need to do", but is all my time spent in doing them? What if I were to be productive during the times that I "play" on the computer? What then would I accomplish? I'm not saying that we all don't need some down time, but here's a way we can find it! Take a good, honest look at your day...split it up into 15 min. segments and see if you can fill in each block with something that you're doing that is productive toward your goals for that day/week. Do that for say...three days....let me know what happens. Then, start next week with your calendar and BEGIN with time for the Lord..., time for you, and then time for hubby and family. DONT FILL IN ANYTHING ELSE before putting these things in first. Then fill in your must do's (work schedule, appointments, kids scheduled activities and so on) MAKE SURE YOU PUT IN TIME FOR YOU AND THE LORD! Make these things priorities and I'll bet you that you'll find time for all that you need to do without difficulty! I know that seems overwhelming to think about...I know I feel busy all day long, but I too need to "re-organized" my days and weeks every so often to keep up with what God has planned for me and my family. LET ME KNOW!! I would LOVE to hear your results!!
"She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness." KJV Prov 31 v 27
We are all busy!! But with what? I know that my schedule is loaded with "things I need to do", but is all my time spent in doing them? What if I were to be productive during the times that I "play" on the computer? What then would I accomplish? I'm not saying that we all don't need some down time, but here's a way we can find it! Take a good, honest look at your day...split it up into 15 min. segments and see if you can fill in each block with something that you're doing that is productive toward your goals for that day/week. Do that for say...three days....let me know what happens. Then, start next week with your calendar and BEGIN with time for the Lord..., time for you, and then time for hubby and family. DONT FILL IN ANYTHING ELSE before putting these things in first. Then fill in your must do's (work schedule, appointments, kids scheduled activities and so on) MAKE SURE YOU PUT IN TIME FOR YOU AND THE LORD! Make these things priorities and I'll bet you that you'll find time for all that you need to do without difficulty! I know that seems overwhelming to think about...I know I feel busy all day long, but I too need to "re-organized" my days and weeks every so often to keep up with what God has planned for me and my family. LET ME KNOW!! I would LOVE to hear your results!!
Saturday, June 2, 2012
Not for women only!!
The description of the type of woman that King Lemuel's mom would like him to live his life with is what starts this chapter. It's difficult to find the right spouse and then to have a relationship that will last for more than a few years...most especially now when divorce and living together is so rampant. Recently a friend described to me a method by which a friend had approached her marriage and I was amazed....and awed at how simple and yet so difficult this process could be, yet so utterly successful and blessed when put into practice. She approached it very suscintly. With her intended she laid out what she expected...down to a "t". and if he chose not to comply with these concepts, then it was off! No marriage and no more relationship! something that is amazingly straightforward, and yet nearly no one does this anymore!! Why do we not think long term when we consider marriage? We as a society think only in the moment and no longer consider what happens because of one moment into the next!! King Lemuel's mom knew this and warned him be very careful about giving away "himself" and avoiding drunken sprees as these will weaken his effectiveness as a king and ruler.
As a woman and spouse working toward attaining the Proverbs 31 virtuous woman, I couldn't agree more with the kings mom.....no king wants to worry about children out of wedlock or to have to make important decisions while hung over and thinking more about the next bout of drunkenness and not fully aware of his surroundings and words.
I want a husband who is equally partnered with me and who has the same goals for our family and life! Not only do verses 10-31 describe and individual, but I believe it subtly describes how Christ wants us as his "brides" to behave during our lives as his church! So...this isn't just for women, but men can also glean a lesson on the ideal husband as well!! Read it together and see if you can begin to realign your relationship in someway to the highest ideal of marriage as we earthly creatures can imagine. Our husbands are suppose to be able to handle that family matters first and foremost, but they won't be able to if we don't agree on what that's suppose to be and how to handle each matter. It's a concept that isn't used anymore because we are such a selfish, me centered society, but WORK TOGETHER....it's a long ride and should be considered very carefully before entering into this world of marriage, parenting and leading our children into adulthood.
The description of the type of woman that King Lemuel's mom would like him to live his life with is what starts this chapter. It's difficult to find the right spouse and then to have a relationship that will last for more than a few years...most especially now when divorce and living together is so rampant. Recently a friend described to me a method by which a friend had approached her marriage and I was amazed....and awed at how simple and yet so difficult this process could be, yet so utterly successful and blessed when put into practice. She approached it very suscintly. With her intended she laid out what she expected...down to a "t". and if he chose not to comply with these concepts, then it was off! No marriage and no more relationship! something that is amazingly straightforward, and yet nearly no one does this anymore!! Why do we not think long term when we consider marriage? We as a society think only in the moment and no longer consider what happens because of one moment into the next!! King Lemuel's mom knew this and warned him be very careful about giving away "himself" and avoiding drunken sprees as these will weaken his effectiveness as a king and ruler.
As a woman and spouse working toward attaining the Proverbs 31 virtuous woman, I couldn't agree more with the kings mom.....no king wants to worry about children out of wedlock or to have to make important decisions while hung over and thinking more about the next bout of drunkenness and not fully aware of his surroundings and words.
I want a husband who is equally partnered with me and who has the same goals for our family and life! Not only do verses 10-31 describe and individual, but I believe it subtly describes how Christ wants us as his "brides" to behave during our lives as his church! So...this isn't just for women, but men can also glean a lesson on the ideal husband as well!! Read it together and see if you can begin to realign your relationship in someway to the highest ideal of marriage as we earthly creatures can imagine. Our husbands are suppose to be able to handle that family matters first and foremost, but they won't be able to if we don't agree on what that's suppose to be and how to handle each matter. It's a concept that isn't used anymore because we are such a selfish, me centered society, but WORK TOGETHER....it's a long ride and should be considered very carefully before entering into this world of marriage, parenting and leading our children into adulthood.
Friday, June 1, 2012
A challenge to you...find something you love to do...and give it away!
"Give her the fruits of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates" verse 31 from KJV
Many times I have worked hard at something that I enjoyed doing and then got such thanks for the gift. I LOVE to crochet gifts for others...blankets, sweaters, many other things...I just enjoy the craft so much and really love to give them to those I know will truly appreciate them. I just gives me such a thrill! Many people have made comments on how they like the gifts they've received or just on the workmanship. I really feel great about how well I do these projects, but more than that...I've built a solid reputation for good craftsmanship as well...and have been specifically asked to make things for someone...which of course I do.
Recently I saw a story on the television of a little boy who kept trading things he wanted for the next bigger, better thing until he was able to get an all expenses paid Disney World Vacation! He then gave this vacation to a family who had lost a loved one in the line of duty in the war! What a kid! Then when ABC did a story on this kid, they rewarded him with his own vacation package...which he gave away to another deserving family!!!!....When asked why he did this...he said he just wanted to make someone else happy and this is what he thought a family who was grieving would enjoy and make them happy. WOW!! and he was only 9yrs old!
Neither of these two little stories are were of great cost to those involved....they used creativity and thought out of the box to bring the love of Christ to another in some small way...and it was returned many times over!
My husband tells me that I at times go about accomplishing things in the most labor intensive way. He likes to do things really efficiently and as quickly as possible. There are some things that you really cannot do in any manner other than slow and steady. In the end, your product is the best it can be and you'll be so satisfied and proud of the outcome that no one can say enough about the results of your work!! To me...that's the highest praise anyone could give. I know God is behind each of my skills and talents. When I get the kudos for anything, it's because I did the work with the knowledge that God is in each and every inch of it!
Thursday, May 31, 2012
BE PREPARED!!
"She doesn't worry about her family when it snows, their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear."
That good "ole moto of both Girl and Boy Scouts!! BE PREPARED. As I read through a book that is suppose to help me become more organized and help me to keep the house clean enough that it looks like it cleans itself?!, I am slowly minimal-izing all the stuff I've collected and the kids have outgrown. Getting into the habits of seasonal changes such as Spring Cleaning and Winterizing the house, home and family...such a arduous task. But well worth the efforts when all is said and done. As I implement the ideas that this book brings out, I am amazed at how often these ideas reflect the Proverbs 31 woman!. There are places in this "cleaning itself house" for give away items, cleaning stations for quick pickups, every area has its deep cleaning tools handy, so many "prepared for anything" stops along the way that blend into the overall view of the house. And once implemented this is going to make my overall housecleaning faster, easier and better cleaned all the time! Still working on finishing the book as of yet, but I do intend over the summer to put this into action and train up my girls in the same method as I believe it will be best for us all around!. I know that this concept of a virtuous woman is truly what I want to reflect to my family, friends and be a blessing to all I come across, but mostly, I want to reflect my gratitude, praise and worship toward my God who loves me beyond all comparison and has provided me this example and those family and friends who I can hold up as strong examples which I can emulate in my life.
"She doesn't worry about her family when it snows, their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear."
That good "ole moto of both Girl and Boy Scouts!! BE PREPARED. As I read through a book that is suppose to help me become more organized and help me to keep the house clean enough that it looks like it cleans itself?!, I am slowly minimal-izing all the stuff I've collected and the kids have outgrown. Getting into the habits of seasonal changes such as Spring Cleaning and Winterizing the house, home and family...such a arduous task. But well worth the efforts when all is said and done. As I implement the ideas that this book brings out, I am amazed at how often these ideas reflect the Proverbs 31 woman!. There are places in this "cleaning itself house" for give away items, cleaning stations for quick pickups, every area has its deep cleaning tools handy, so many "prepared for anything" stops along the way that blend into the overall view of the house. And once implemented this is going to make my overall housecleaning faster, easier and better cleaned all the time! Still working on finishing the book as of yet, but I do intend over the summer to put this into action and train up my girls in the same method as I believe it will be best for us all around!. I know that this concept of a virtuous woman is truly what I want to reflect to my family, friends and be a blessing to all I come across, but mostly, I want to reflect my gratitude, praise and worship toward my God who loves me beyond all comparison and has provided me this example and those family and friends who I can hold up as strong examples which I can emulate in my life.
Wednesday, May 30, 2012
"Her husband trusts her without reserve, and never has reason to regret it."
I am a fortunate woman to have the unfailing trust of my husband. We have had differences in many ways, but I don't know of a time where he couldn't trust me to make a sound decision on anything. And that really does go both ways. I know I can trust him to do his best and take care of a matter at hand in the best way possible.I may argue over the time it takes to make that decision or the road he goes on to do it, but at the end, it's what was best. That starts with our trust in God and knowing that He will lead us where we are suppose to be. Several years ago, we had an opportunity to move from where we are to another part of the state because of the promise of better employment. This meant that for several months, I would be here and he would work up north and come home or we would visit on the weekends. I gave up my job, got the house all ready (by myself) for any buyers, diligently worked on paying the bills with what was sent home, and packed all that could be packed for moving. I don't think I went to bed one night without being exhausted for two months straight as I got this all accomplished for prospective buyers. My husband trusted me to make every financial decision for this and of course I spoke with him on several points, but what a crazy season that was! In addition to this, my eldest daughter was working on moving in with her dad as the schools where we were going weren't set up well for advanced placement classes. Yes, I have a genius for a child and it amazes me everyday how much more she has lurking up in her brain than I could even begin to comprehend!! So...in the middle of the worst blizzard in a decade we leave for her dad's having packed her entire room into my suburban and as I navigate the ruts on I-75 north to whiteout city, she sleeps!! OMGoodness was that ever scary! Everyone trusted my choices for my kids and only God and I knew how scared and worried I was over all of them at this time. Turns out that my girl didn't stay with her dad as he and his wife were experiencing a nasty turn in their marriage and two weeks later, I was again packing up my girl and her gear to come home...this time without the added blizzard! I think that was a big turning point in the level of trust my family afforded me and I'm glad that I earned it, but don't want that trial again...EVER!
God puts that same kind of trust in you and your spouse when you marry. He trusts you with each other and as long as you focus your trust in Him when making decisions for your lives and those of your children, you won't ever regret it!!
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
God considers us CLASSY LADIES!!!
"Many women have done wonderful things, but you've outclassed them all!"
Think of the top five women in this world that you admire...and why....and then remember this verse...God thinks you OUTCLASSED them all!!...WOW...that's some pretty high standards!! But the woman who really puts forth the effort to be a virtuous woman in all areas of her life has been notoriously CLASSY!! She's a skilled woman and business savy. She knows a great bargain, can do all the things she asks of her servants and more, then is ubber respective of her husband who in turn is ooooobbbber respective of her! She knows what's happening in all her family's lives, is turned to for advice and wisdom (and gives the best advice). She eagerly helps those in need. Not a worry or fear does she have because she has prepared for any and all eventuality. I tell you what..WOW...and God does this through us for our families!! God considers us CLASSY WOMEN and above the worth of diamonds!! I just am in awe that He thinks so highly of ME and YOU and YOU and......all women. Now....as long as I do all that I can to do my best for HIM and my family....there's no way I can fail....because I've done it with love, kindness and as my gift of praise and worship to HIM!!
"Many women have done wonderful things, but you've outclassed them all!"
Think of the top five women in this world that you admire...and why....and then remember this verse...God thinks you OUTCLASSED them all!!...WOW...that's some pretty high standards!! But the woman who really puts forth the effort to be a virtuous woman in all areas of her life has been notoriously CLASSY!! She's a skilled woman and business savy. She knows a great bargain, can do all the things she asks of her servants and more, then is ubber respective of her husband who in turn is ooooobbbber respective of her! She knows what's happening in all her family's lives, is turned to for advice and wisdom (and gives the best advice). She eagerly helps those in need. Not a worry or fear does she have because she has prepared for any and all eventuality. I tell you what..WOW...and God does this through us for our families!! God considers us CLASSY WOMEN and above the worth of diamonds!! I just am in awe that He thinks so highly of ME and YOU and YOU and......all women. Now....as long as I do all that I can to do my best for HIM and my family....there's no way I can fail....because I've done it with love, kindness and as my gift of praise and worship to HIM!!
Sunday, May 27, 2012
The BEST shopper around!!
"She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing".
I grew up in a house FILLED with women. I lived with five sisters, my mom and my great aunt. And then there was dad....poor guy....or was he?!! Because we were a large family and had to be careful with our spending, we learned how to catch a great bargain and to do somethings for ourselves (sew and such) if we couldn't buy it or if we wanted something a bit different. Dad was "crafty", too! He made all kinds of things for around the house and really wanted the best for "his girls". I never remember feeling as if we were poor or under priveledged, even though I'm sure at times the budget was stretched out farther than it could really handle. We gardened and canned, shared and hand-me-downed, had grandma cut our hair on occasion, learned how to make our own music and studied hard for the degrees we earned in college. After dad died, I'm sure mom felt all kinds of pressure to be able to provide for all of us....she took over the business my dad had begun, put all six of us through our bachelor's degrees and bought our first cars for us...and sooooo much more! She loved to sew and even now with fading eye sight and few things that keep her interest, she helps all of us with little projects. She taught us all how to be that honoring wife, mother, business woman and faithful worshiper of Christ. She did these things from love for her God, husband and children and was never formally taught many of these skills. Many people ask of those who are handling big loads (wether it's a big family, health issues, single parenting..) how? I used to say, I have to, so I do...now I realize it's because God has blessed me with what I need to make it to the next step, minute, hour, day....and so on.
I have a great friend who is the biggest bargain shopper I have EVER met! I don't think she paid full price on ANYTHING unless absolutely necessary! She wisely looks at all the bargains that week, plans her list and travel locations and then...watch out!...she may give you a sometimes gift!! Those are the BEST! She was also one of the foster parents in our county that helped foster over 125 kids over the many years she and her husband parented them. She knew how to create meals from very little, pull a room together for an emergency placement in minutes and still assists a few of these blessings today in their everyday lives!. Using all your abilities to their best advantage and then finding methods by which to access other skills is her best skill!! Networking with her on different agencies that can provide you some assistance is tremendous!! I'll touch more on this skill later in the blog.
Mom used all these principles we see highlighted in these 21 verses...and really wasn't "trying" to be this person...this "super-mom". But because she trusted in God and had her faith in Him...she was and still is a my SUPER WOMAN.
"She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, and enjoys knitting and sewing".
I grew up in a house FILLED with women. I lived with five sisters, my mom and my great aunt. And then there was dad....poor guy....or was he?!! Because we were a large family and had to be careful with our spending, we learned how to catch a great bargain and to do somethings for ourselves (sew and such) if we couldn't buy it or if we wanted something a bit different. Dad was "crafty", too! He made all kinds of things for around the house and really wanted the best for "his girls". I never remember feeling as if we were poor or under priveledged, even though I'm sure at times the budget was stretched out farther than it could really handle. We gardened and canned, shared and hand-me-downed, had grandma cut our hair on occasion, learned how to make our own music and studied hard for the degrees we earned in college. After dad died, I'm sure mom felt all kinds of pressure to be able to provide for all of us....she took over the business my dad had begun, put all six of us through our bachelor's degrees and bought our first cars for us...and sooooo much more! She loved to sew and even now with fading eye sight and few things that keep her interest, she helps all of us with little projects. She taught us all how to be that honoring wife, mother, business woman and faithful worshiper of Christ. She did these things from love for her God, husband and children and was never formally taught many of these skills. Many people ask of those who are handling big loads (wether it's a big family, health issues, single parenting..) how? I used to say, I have to, so I do...now I realize it's because God has blessed me with what I need to make it to the next step, minute, hour, day....and so on.
I have a great friend who is the biggest bargain shopper I have EVER met! I don't think she paid full price on ANYTHING unless absolutely necessary! She wisely looks at all the bargains that week, plans her list and travel locations and then...watch out!...she may give you a sometimes gift!! Those are the BEST! She was also one of the foster parents in our county that helped foster over 125 kids over the many years she and her husband parented them. She knew how to create meals from very little, pull a room together for an emergency placement in minutes and still assists a few of these blessings today in their everyday lives!. Using all your abilities to their best advantage and then finding methods by which to access other skills is her best skill!! Networking with her on different agencies that can provide you some assistance is tremendous!! I'll touch more on this skill later in the blog.
Mom used all these principles we see highlighted in these 21 verses...and really wasn't "trying" to be this person...this "super-mom". But because she trusted in God and had her faith in Him...she was and still is a my SUPER WOMAN.
Friday, May 25, 2012
Beauty and Charm
"Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the fear of God."
Wow!! Beauty and Charm can mislead and fade.....so all the time I spend trying to stay ahead of the wrinkles and looking my best won't do me much in the end.....That's because....if you think of it.....beauty comes from the inside...the makeup and other things only enhance the truly beautiful spirit that God gave us from the very beginning! My husband always said he liked how I looked better without makeup than with and most the time, when I wear makeup, it's for myself...makes me feel a bit better and more confident, but those attributes aren't something that you can "put on". I just "feel" a bit more "put together". I'm no less of a person or less precious to God and my family because of what I put on my face. And taking care of yourself, being healthy and fit, isn't necessarily for the glances others give you, but it is to keep you in healthy condition for the things you do on a daily basis.
I have a great and dear friend who is a fitness instructor, a black belt in martial arts, a single mom, painter, artist and so much more. The reason she chooses to be a fitness instructor is because it allows her body to keep moving in order to be able to do the physical things she loves. Without it, her arthritis would be so severe that she wouldn't be able to do anything...Keeping in motion allows her to stay in motion. She's absolutely gorgeous, sweet and kind, has a HUGE heart for God and two adorable and loving girls. Never likes wearing makeup and says that whatever wrinkles, gray hair and other "aging" she's showing just show that's shes worth every one of them!! Now don't think I'm bashing all those glamour girls....heck, I sell Mary Kay! But I want you to realize that the makeup and skinny figures and all the "girly glam" isn't what creates you into an admired person, it's what comes from your heart, the love of God that bursts forth from you that others will seek out and admire of you.
"Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. The woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the fear of God."
Wow!! Beauty and Charm can mislead and fade.....so all the time I spend trying to stay ahead of the wrinkles and looking my best won't do me much in the end.....That's because....if you think of it.....beauty comes from the inside...the makeup and other things only enhance the truly beautiful spirit that God gave us from the very beginning! My husband always said he liked how I looked better without makeup than with and most the time, when I wear makeup, it's for myself...makes me feel a bit better and more confident, but those attributes aren't something that you can "put on". I just "feel" a bit more "put together". I'm no less of a person or less precious to God and my family because of what I put on my face. And taking care of yourself, being healthy and fit, isn't necessarily for the glances others give you, but it is to keep you in healthy condition for the things you do on a daily basis.
I have a great and dear friend who is a fitness instructor, a black belt in martial arts, a single mom, painter, artist and so much more. The reason she chooses to be a fitness instructor is because it allows her body to keep moving in order to be able to do the physical things she loves. Without it, her arthritis would be so severe that she wouldn't be able to do anything...Keeping in motion allows her to stay in motion. She's absolutely gorgeous, sweet and kind, has a HUGE heart for God and two adorable and loving girls. Never likes wearing makeup and says that whatever wrinkles, gray hair and other "aging" she's showing just show that's shes worth every one of them!! Now don't think I'm bashing all those glamour girls....heck, I sell Mary Kay! But I want you to realize that the makeup and skinny figures and all the "girly glam" isn't what creates you into an admired person, it's what comes from your heart, the love of God that bursts forth from you that others will seek out and admire of you.
Thursday, May 24, 2012
Make it count and do it with kindness.
While I can be a bit of a social gabber, I do try not to gossip or talk just to have something to say. Jumping into the middle of conversations is sometimes a habit I have and then I get myself into trouble. I've been working on "keeping my opinions to myself and my mouth shut" until invited into the conversation or I have something worthwhile to speak about. That's not to say I won't talk to anyone at all, but even with my girls...in terms of giving direction to what they are doing or in discipline...I try to carefully choose my words and not just yell. It's a bit tricky and I'm still learning different tactics for each child, but I am getting a bit better and each time I rely on God to direct my words and actions, things get better. Even fools who keep their mouths shut seem wise. That's somewhere in the early part of proverbs, and right now I can't locate it, but it's there and sound advice at that. Not only does she speak with kindness and with forethought, but really, with her schedule...she doesn't have time to spread gossip or even listen to it from others. My goal today...no gossiping, only well thought out conversation and kindness in every word!
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
Pay Attention!!!
This comes from a different chapter of Proverbs, but it is sooooo important that we understand what is being said here. Proverbs. 23 verse 26 "Dear Child, I want your full attention, please do what I show you."
Many of us think that we know what we need to do, do it, and it doesn't turn out right. For instance...Making bread for my youngest to assist her in her dietary needs, I purchased all the ingredients except 1 and chose to use a little extra of another to compensate. Two things...I was once married to a pastry chef, so I thought I already knew the most important steps to making bread and would just "wing it" with what I thought would work otherwise. Mind you I did ask said ex for a substitute and he didn't get back with me before I started making this bread as he was working. I made it...it tasted great...the kids and hubby and I ate and enjoyed it...but it came out like a brick. I did add the yeast and let it rise, but I didn't COMPLETELY follow the directions so my bread wasn't the best it could/should have been.
God wants our FULL ATTENTION!! He know's we aren't perfect, but when we follow HIS directions, we are so much better off than we could have been had we not listened. Our frustrations (many times) can be brought down to whether or not we were listening in the beginning so that the end result would be right/good/best.
The Virtuous Woman of Proverbs 31 chooses to listen, plan and organize and then carry out the directions that God gives her each day. I know that sounds all high and mighty, but the directions come from the HIGH AND MIGHTY GOD!! I think I'll be listening more closely from now on...how 'bout you?
This comes from a different chapter of Proverbs, but it is sooooo important that we understand what is being said here. Proverbs. 23 verse 26 "Dear Child, I want your full attention, please do what I show you."
Many of us think that we know what we need to do, do it, and it doesn't turn out right. For instance...Making bread for my youngest to assist her in her dietary needs, I purchased all the ingredients except 1 and chose to use a little extra of another to compensate. Two things...I was once married to a pastry chef, so I thought I already knew the most important steps to making bread and would just "wing it" with what I thought would work otherwise. Mind you I did ask said ex for a substitute and he didn't get back with me before I started making this bread as he was working. I made it...it tasted great...the kids and hubby and I ate and enjoyed it...but it came out like a brick. I did add the yeast and let it rise, but I didn't COMPLETELY follow the directions so my bread wasn't the best it could/should have been.
God wants our FULL ATTENTION!! He know's we aren't perfect, but when we follow HIS directions, we are so much better off than we could have been had we not listened. Our frustrations (many times) can be brought down to whether or not we were listening in the beginning so that the end result would be right/good/best.
The Virtuous Woman of Proverbs 31 chooses to listen, plan and organize and then carry out the directions that God gives her each day. I know that sounds all high and mighty, but the directions come from the HIGH AND MIGHTY GOD!! I think I'll be listening more closely from now on...how 'bout you?
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
She Takes Care of Herself!
No one verse in this description says that the Virtuous Woman exercises or does anything specific to make sure she's in good health and at her best, but with all that she does and believes, we have to understand that this cannot be accomplished without being in good physical, mental and emotional health. Sooooo..last night, up late munching on whatever I could get my little fingers and hands around as I just sat watching a movie till 11:30. Some good example, eh? I didn't work on my crocheting projects, didn't put my to do list together, didn't eat anything particularly healthy for me and just sat glued to the tube. Lord...help me to work on being the best person I can be for YOU so that I can promote the vision you have given to me and do YOUR work through this vision!!! Remind me (with a 2x4 if necessary) that I am a temple build for YOU and not to destroy YOUR temple with my bad habits!!!!
No one verse in this description says that the Virtuous Woman exercises or does anything specific to make sure she's in good health and at her best, but with all that she does and believes, we have to understand that this cannot be accomplished without being in good physical, mental and emotional health. Sooooo..last night, up late munching on whatever I could get my little fingers and hands around as I just sat watching a movie till 11:30. Some good example, eh? I didn't work on my crocheting projects, didn't put my to do list together, didn't eat anything particularly healthy for me and just sat glued to the tube. Lord...help me to work on being the best person I can be for YOU so that I can promote the vision you have given to me and do YOUR work through this vision!!! Remind me (with a 2x4 if necessary) that I am a temple build for YOU and not to destroy YOUR temple with my bad habits!!!!
Monday, May 21, 2012
THANK GOD FOR HUSBANDS
Proverbs 31 verse 12
"Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long."
This can be a tough one. God wants us to love one another...treat each other with kindness and respect. In verse 11 we hear that the husband trusts her without reserve and never has reason to regret it.
These ideals are much easier when you are both equally yoked in your faith and life, but that isn't always the case.
Each person receives and gives love a bit differently. Some like to to everyday things to show that they care for the other ( a clean house, a hot dinner on the table when hubby arrives home from work, squabbling kids no longer squabbling, etc....) Others bear gifts of all kinds, some feel that the physical side of affection is what really speaks to others....so many ways! Not everyone speaks their love in the same manner. It's like going to a restaurant where all they do is speak Spanish and you don't understand the language...but you get your requests met in other ways of communication...looking and pointing at the menu or someone else's dish that you want to try. My husband and I really have to work at this particular part of our marriage because we don't speak well in the others "native tongue". Even after 12 years, we are only just beginning to understand what makes the other feel "loved". I always try to stay away from "man bashing" and that is not easily accomplished in today's world. We both work hard not to "bash" each other at all, but also never in front of the kids...that's just bad teaching tools.
My husband over the past few years has trusted me to take care of the bills...he puts his pay check in the mail and then I disperse it to the appropriate collector. He doesn't always like how I keep the check book, but he trusts me to maintain it accurately and every so often we discuss any minor discrepancies. Money is the most difficult thing for anyone to trust another with....
Today...try not to "bash" your husband. Thank God to day for your husband....tell others today of the wonderful things he has done with and for you and your family. Give the respect and trust that a virtuous woman would provide to him....and see the improvement in your day, week, month and your marriage just BLOOM!!
Proverbs 31 verse 12
"Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long."
This can be a tough one. God wants us to love one another...treat each other with kindness and respect. In verse 11 we hear that the husband trusts her without reserve and never has reason to regret it.
These ideals are much easier when you are both equally yoked in your faith and life, but that isn't always the case.
Each person receives and gives love a bit differently. Some like to to everyday things to show that they care for the other ( a clean house, a hot dinner on the table when hubby arrives home from work, squabbling kids no longer squabbling, etc....) Others bear gifts of all kinds, some feel that the physical side of affection is what really speaks to others....so many ways! Not everyone speaks their love in the same manner. It's like going to a restaurant where all they do is speak Spanish and you don't understand the language...but you get your requests met in other ways of communication...looking and pointing at the menu or someone else's dish that you want to try. My husband and I really have to work at this particular part of our marriage because we don't speak well in the others "native tongue". Even after 12 years, we are only just beginning to understand what makes the other feel "loved". I always try to stay away from "man bashing" and that is not easily accomplished in today's world. We both work hard not to "bash" each other at all, but also never in front of the kids...that's just bad teaching tools.
My husband over the past few years has trusted me to take care of the bills...he puts his pay check in the mail and then I disperse it to the appropriate collector. He doesn't always like how I keep the check book, but he trusts me to maintain it accurately and every so often we discuss any minor discrepancies. Money is the most difficult thing for anyone to trust another with....
Today...try not to "bash" your husband. Thank God to day for your husband....tell others today of the wonderful things he has done with and for you and your family. Give the respect and trust that a virtuous woman would provide to him....and see the improvement in your day, week, month and your marriage just BLOOM!!
Sunday, May 20, 2012
The Martha Stewart of her day
"She's up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day."
I LOVE being organized...things just flow so much easier that way...but I HATE GETTING organized...at least until recent years when I really didn't have a choice! With children, everything MUST be more organized or you make yourself nuts!! I learned a few tricks over the years and they've really paid off when it came to remaining even remotely sane. First..a daily to do list....never leave the breakfast table without the priorities of the day in writing on something I can carry with me as a reminder...Loads of different ways to do this...better to do the night before and check your monthly calendar for what's going on that you need to work into your day. Second...my saving grace.....an organized tote bag. In it I carry my list, my purse, my daughters needs, whatever crochet project I'm working on that can be worked on while waiting wherever, my phone, drink...you get the idea....And last...if your children see that you're using these skills, it's more likely that they will in the future! My oldest texted me the other day when I asked if she might want to have a movie night that she had to reorganized the house she has been renting as it was really just thrown apart from the owner having moved out!! YEAH...my example created an organized young lady! Not only that, but she also has been in complete charge of her college educational communications with financial aide and class scheduling...everything...I'm so blessed that she can and is willing to do these things for herself!! Organization has one really wonderful blessing in itself....It helps you prioritize your time so that you can fit in your time with God, yourself and your family! It helps you know that God is with you when you start your day with Him and that you'll be able to get done all you need to...because you put this one little skill into practice. And when storms come up...you know you'll be able to handle it all!!! With God at your side you can't loose!!!
"She's up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day."
I LOVE being organized...things just flow so much easier that way...but I HATE GETTING organized...at least until recent years when I really didn't have a choice! With children, everything MUST be more organized or you make yourself nuts!! I learned a few tricks over the years and they've really paid off when it came to remaining even remotely sane. First..a daily to do list....never leave the breakfast table without the priorities of the day in writing on something I can carry with me as a reminder...Loads of different ways to do this...better to do the night before and check your monthly calendar for what's going on that you need to work into your day. Second...my saving grace.....an organized tote bag. In it I carry my list, my purse, my daughters needs, whatever crochet project I'm working on that can be worked on while waiting wherever, my phone, drink...you get the idea....And last...if your children see that you're using these skills, it's more likely that they will in the future! My oldest texted me the other day when I asked if she might want to have a movie night that she had to reorganized the house she has been renting as it was really just thrown apart from the owner having moved out!! YEAH...my example created an organized young lady! Not only that, but she also has been in complete charge of her college educational communications with financial aide and class scheduling...everything...I'm so blessed that she can and is willing to do these things for herself!! Organization has one really wonderful blessing in itself....It helps you prioritize your time so that you can fit in your time with God, yourself and your family! It helps you know that God is with you when you start your day with Him and that you'll be able to get done all you need to...because you put this one little skill into practice. And when storms come up...you know you'll be able to handle it all!!! With God at your side you can't loose!!!
Friday, May 18, 2012
HARD WORK PAYS OFF!!
She senses the worth of her work, is in no hurry to call it quits for the day. She's skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, diligent in homemaking. verses18-19 of Proverbs.
All my growing up years, my mom really exemplified this woman in Proverbs. She LOVED dad and did an utterly awesome job in caring for her six daughters.The house is always immaculate and even now, as she lives alone, she still takes the best care of herself she can, her home speaks of her loving care and her daughters have nothing but praise and admiration for her. Hard example to follow, but God says I AM PRICELESS and HIS CREATION and one that can live an ABUNDANT LIFE all my life. So, am I there yet?! NOPE! But still working hard to really implement all these things into my life and instill these disciplines into my daughters lives. I think I've succeeded a little. My eldest a few years back surprised me one morning....On the wall of the upstairs hallway and going down toward the main floor were sticky notes with various little sayings of love and warmth from her to me on them. WOW!! that was wonderful to read and I have them tucked into my planner that I carry with me daily just as a little reminder that I did pretty well with her so far. She's now 24yrs old, but man that really boosts me up each time I read them over again. You're saying to yourself right now...yeah..when you have a great example to follow...that's not so hard. What about those who DON'T have that great example, who were never taught all these skills and can't begin to get a grip on what a Woman of Diamonds is? THATS LOADED..isn't it! In some of my discussions with my study group this very question came up...and many suggested that in our times, many people have made a living as being organizers, writing books about cooking, child rearing and relationship builing, house cleaning and so many other topics. There really isn't any excuse to say I don't know how anymore. Your local library is a fantastic resource...more importantly, your church body is a wealth of experience and knowledge about many of these topics...It takes dedication. Like ANY relationship with anyone, there is work involved. Don't call it quits if you don't know what you want to/ need to know to accomplish something.....be dilligent, be in no hurry to call it quits....Pray, follow and act upon the leading's of God. Some references for you that I've been using and learning from in regards to typical organizational methods for any home, for nutritional guides (there are sooooo many on the internet) and of course...your bible as a source of inspiration, guidance and reference. Check into your county extention office. My county is affiliated with Michigan State University and has an Extention Office here that is phenominal!! Find out what your county has for resources in this area. Also..the schools, especially the pre-school programs will have connections with such resources to assist in helping the community with nutrition and farming and other efforts of improving the overall lifespan of your community.
The House that Cleans Itself...by Mindy Starns Clark. Martha Stewart's Homekeeping Handbook. and Good Things for Organizing by Martha Stewart.
If you're not certain you want to outright purchase a book, then check it out from your local library first...if you really like it, then check on many online book sellers pages for a used copy that would suit your needs!!!
The only real reason a woman cannot be a Woman of Diamonds is that she doesn't really want to be. It does take work, but anything worthwhile means that there is need for effort and desire to reach the goal that is set before you.
Thursday, May 17, 2012
In another translation I'm comparing verse 25 states "She is strong and respected and not afraid of the future."
Many of us are afraid of the future...the economy isn't very stable, jobs are at a premium for those who are looking, (which include many people I know) and the leadership, as usual, is contradicting itself and posturing all over the place, but it's hard to see just what is REALLY happening and what we can be sure about in order to move forward.
...she is not afraid of the future..."!!! God has us covered!! We areCAPABLE AND STRONG WOMEN of God and He considers us PRICELESS!! He will always protect us and we will always serve our Lord and Savior! In the end, isn't that what is most important?!! I've been living a rather uncertain financial life for many years as my husband's income has greatly fluctuated with the economy. He is employed, by himself, but his services are something that are reconsidered when the economy isn't strong. We lived on food stamps, our children have been covered by Medicaid insurance, and we've had medical emergencies that have put both of us into Medicaid coverage too. Other financial crunches have been part of our everyday life and we've gotten through them because God has looked over us from the beginning!! I know that I'm looked at with respect from others because of our diligence in following God's leading in all of it! We've been blessed by our church family in many ways and I am always looking for fun little ways to help return the favor when I can. Even the smallest of help is Greatly appreciated and remembered and respected. Today...BE STRONG! BE NOT AFRAID, for GOD is WITH YOU!!
Many of us are afraid of the future...the economy isn't very stable, jobs are at a premium for those who are looking, (which include many people I know) and the leadership, as usual, is contradicting itself and posturing all over the place, but it's hard to see just what is REALLY happening and what we can be sure about in order to move forward.
...she is not afraid of the future..."!!! God has us covered!! We areCAPABLE AND STRONG WOMEN of God and He considers us PRICELESS!! He will always protect us and we will always serve our Lord and Savior! In the end, isn't that what is most important?!! I've been living a rather uncertain financial life for many years as my husband's income has greatly fluctuated with the economy. He is employed, by himself, but his services are something that are reconsidered when the economy isn't strong. We lived on food stamps, our children have been covered by Medicaid insurance, and we've had medical emergencies that have put both of us into Medicaid coverage too. Other financial crunches have been part of our everyday life and we've gotten through them because God has looked over us from the beginning!! I know that I'm looked at with respect from others because of our diligence in following God's leading in all of it! We've been blessed by our church family in many ways and I am always looking for fun little ways to help return the favor when I can. Even the smallest of help is Greatly appreciated and remembered and respected. Today...BE STRONG! BE NOT AFRAID, for GOD is WITH YOU!!
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
She's like a trading ship that sails to faraway places and bring back exotic surprises.
I love to try new things and seek out different ways of accomplishing things...always trying a new way to arrange something or going to a new place to learn or see an unknown or rare item. I think that's why I like Antiques Roadshow...something different, rare, unique...exotic.
Having a husband with diabetes and a child with small intestinal troubles keeps me on my toes trying different or healthier foods that we don't commonly have in our diet. Switching to Whole Grain items and handmaking our bread or other foods that you could easily buy, makes life a bit more interesting and the kids aren't always willing or open to trying something a bit out of the ordinary..The rule is..try it and if you really don't like it that's ok...but refusing before trying it is not acceptable.
Is this how we react to what God shows us? I mean...we receive an impression to do something or act a certain way and if it's not in the norm....we back away or reject it? How will we learn? What kind of person would we become if we rejected anything out of the ordinary! Jesus was certainly OUT OF THE ORDINARY!! He WAS rejected by many, but in order to receive heaven, we must receive HIM! Try something exotic, new, unique, and unusual today with your family...you just might be receiving a bit more of HIM in the bargain!!!!
I love to try new things and seek out different ways of accomplishing things...always trying a new way to arrange something or going to a new place to learn or see an unknown or rare item. I think that's why I like Antiques Roadshow...something different, rare, unique...exotic.
Having a husband with diabetes and a child with small intestinal troubles keeps me on my toes trying different or healthier foods that we don't commonly have in our diet. Switching to Whole Grain items and handmaking our bread or other foods that you could easily buy, makes life a bit more interesting and the kids aren't always willing or open to trying something a bit out of the ordinary..The rule is..try it and if you really don't like it that's ok...but refusing before trying it is not acceptable.
Is this how we react to what God shows us? I mean...we receive an impression to do something or act a certain way and if it's not in the norm....we back away or reject it? How will we learn? What kind of person would we become if we rejected anything out of the ordinary! Jesus was certainly OUT OF THE ORDINARY!! He WAS rejected by many, but in order to receive heaven, we must receive HIM! Try something exotic, new, unique, and unusual today with your family...you just might be receiving a bit more of HIM in the bargain!!!!
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
I've been comparing a few different versions of this passage and find that in verse 25 of Proverbs 31 the KJV translation really sums up more what I'd like to put forth. "Strength and Honor are her clothing and she shall rejoice in time to come". With all that we do, we don't always feel strong or even honorable...we do many if not all the dirty, nasty, mundane jobs around our homes and are really viewed more as a servant most days...and we are...of God and of our family. I like to think that I'm viewed by my family as Batman views his servant Alfred...Strong, smart, always able to get him out of a jam and yet very subtle about what he does. Still looks great and is never "flustered" by what is coming at him or what is needed to get Batman out of his jams. (seeing as Batman is my husbands favorite superhero, Thank God I don't have to try to mend the costume, or even find one big enough for him...THAT would be a trick or two I don't think I could ever pull off!!) The Perfect Servant....as we are to strive for with God. And never a wrinkle or spot on his tux....(haven't mastered this as of yet, but God is always smiling on every effort and my family sure thinks of me as one of the best!!) Thanks to God for all my family and fellow "Women of Diamonds" Keep up the great work!!
Monday, May 14, 2012
This morning, being a Monday, the verses that struck me most were those stating
"She's up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she's put aside, plants a garden. First thing int he morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started." Now, for most of us...we work outside the home and these verses, although not always welcome activities, are what we do regularly.....but God put them in a different light this morning...besides the glaring and welcome warmth of the sun!.. Even if you're a mom that's not working outside the home or has a "job" elsewhere, we get dressed for our "work", we have plenty to do and it's all for the benefit of our family! Do it with joy and eagerness and not only will your family reap the benefits, but the Father will know your heart in this and it will bring Him joy overflowing!!
"She's up before dawn, preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. She looks over a field and buys it, then, with money she's put aside, plants a garden. First thing int he morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started." Now, for most of us...we work outside the home and these verses, although not always welcome activities, are what we do regularly.....but God put them in a different light this morning...besides the glaring and welcome warmth of the sun!.. Even if you're a mom that's not working outside the home or has a "job" elsewhere, we get dressed for our "work", we have plenty to do and it's all for the benefit of our family! Do it with joy and eagerness and not only will your family reap the benefits, but the Father will know your heart in this and it will bring Him joy overflowing!!
Sunday, May 13, 2012
As I continue to re-read this wonderful passage about the woman I strive to be, I realize it's like a to do list of her abilities and talent, virtues and wisdom....funny as I was just making out a list of the things I need to do for the next day....I look at it and realize that I hit all the major talents and skills she is described as having! God is sooo amazing at how He shows us who we are and how wonderously He has made us!! She is an amazing woman ....and He is describing ME!! Wonderful...I don't always feel like this and that's when I turn to Proverbs and re-read her...reorganize my thoughts like a cleaning spree in a messy house and realize...I AM WORTH MORE THAN DIAMONDS!!!! Thank you Lord for your constant love of all of us!!!
Saturday, May 12, 2012
She keeps an eye on everyone in her household and keeps them all busy and productive. Her children respect and bless her, her husband joins in with words of praise. Proverbs 31
May all the mothers who read this have this blessing on them this Mother's Day and always!
As I read this today, I thought...my best teacher and guide was always mom, but my own children do not really like to do the many things I do around the house and for them. I struggle to guide them into ways of organization and tidiness about their own belongings...and of course my hubby is almost as bad. However, I always have kisses and hugs and "I Love You, Mom" from them each night and my husband says the same. I only hope one day I will see that some of my household efforts have rubbed off onto them!!!
May all the mothers who read this have this blessing on them this Mother's Day and always!
As I read this today, I thought...my best teacher and guide was always mom, but my own children do not really like to do the many things I do around the house and for them. I struggle to guide them into ways of organization and tidiness about their own belongings...and of course my hubby is almost as bad. However, I always have kisses and hugs and "I Love You, Mom" from them each night and my husband says the same. I only hope one day I will see that some of my household efforts have rubbed off onto them!!!
Friday, May 11, 2012
This morning as I was reading I found something else that really caught my attention in a different light. Proverbs 31 " she makes her own clothing, and dresses in colorful linens and silks"
Now , in this day and age most people don't make their own clothes, but we do set our own fashion sense. We present an image in everything we do...what we wear, how we wear it, what does what we wear say about us. As women of God we have to be sure that what we are presenting is what God wants us to say, be, do and show. Be sure of how you dress today so that you are telling and speaking to others what God wants us to say.
Now , in this day and age most people don't make their own clothes, but we do set our own fashion sense. We present an image in everything we do...what we wear, how we wear it, what does what we wear say about us. As women of God we have to be sure that what we are presenting is what God wants us to say, be, do and show. Be sure of how you dress today so that you are telling and speaking to others what God wants us to say.
Thursday, May 10, 2012
Well, here I am starting out on a HUGE journey with the Lord, following a vision He has given me. It's to study the Proverbs 31 description of women.
The first few verses have a lot of meaning to them from my perspective and I would love any and all viewpoints others may have for this study.
The first verse, for me is really jammed packed with emotion as I haven't always felt like I was really worth the cost of A diamond let alone more than ALL diamonds. It says "her worth is far more than diamonds"
WOW...God sees me as His JEWEL!!! HIS Treasure, His Precious Creation!
The first few verses have a lot of meaning to them from my perspective and I would love any and all viewpoints others may have for this study.
The first verse, for me is really jammed packed with emotion as I haven't always felt like I was really worth the cost of A diamond let alone more than ALL diamonds. It says "her worth is far more than diamonds"
WOW...God sees me as His JEWEL!!! HIS Treasure, His Precious Creation!
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